Some One: I was always bullied and picked by my friends. That’s why I have the porcupine effect in me. I never trusted anyone. I never trusted anyone else but myself.
Some Two: Why didn’t you fight back when you were bullied or picked?
Some One: Because I believe one day, they will get bored if I just ignore them.
It’s just a simple conversation that I have with one of my friend who constantly becomes victim of bullying. Bullying is the act of intentionally causing harm to others through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion such as manipulation. When I was in kindergarten, I was a victim of bullying too. I remember sometime I feel so angry with my friend but my mother and father always says to me to ignore them (I really love you). But is it ok to just ignore them and hope that they will eventually bore and get over with?
I personally disagree with this. I think a person who constantly becomes victim of bullying will be like a loose cannon. Nobody knows when that person is going to explode. The harder they got bullied the bigger the explosion that likely to occur. The victims usually become a solitary, loner who doesn’t interact much with their community where they were bullied because of the traumatic feeling. For example, if they are bullied in the office, then they won’t interact much with their colleagues.
It seems that bullying someone, especially physically, become common and accepted thing in the community. I think it’s because they don’t know the different between making joke and making fun. If you want to make a joke about someone, then you should follow the rule of one two three. One is ok, two is enough, three, you’ve gone too far and it’s not funny anymore. But most of the time people don’t know or don’t want to know about the rule. They just keep on pushing the limit. And when you got mad, they will say that you are not fun and too serious. Ketik c spasi d, cuappeee dehh …
One of my IFers friends (for the sake of confidentiality I will not expose her name) also become a physical bullying in her office. She was so angry because out all of the employees in her office, why would they pick her instead of someone else. She continued by her intention to kill them all if she can.
They must have never thought the effect of their simple joke. So, let’s stop making jokes that physically or mentally abuse someone else. Let’s start to make a smart joke.